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Law and Order – SVU<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

So here\u2019s a strange question: what\u2019s up with the \u201cright\u201d and talking dirty? I mean, there were times in the Jackson Supreme Court nomination process when I wanted to turn off the TV and go wash my hands. Hawley, Cruz, Cotton and Graham were intent on describing cases of child pornography in graphic detail. They had the audience squirming in their seats, like those incredibly awkward moments of confession in Law and Order S<\/em>VU when Stabler (in the early days) looked like he was going to beat the suspect. And the Senators were doing it intentionally, to a judge who sent those same pornographers to Federal prison for years, and added decades of restrictions and labels. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

It wasn\u2019t about her punishing them, it was about whether she punished them \u201clong enough\u201d.  So we all get to share in pederast stories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t Say G*y<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

And then there\u2019s the Florida politicians (and now Ohio) who are trying to convince us that our kid\u2019s kindergarten teacher is trying to teach them about sex.  Good Lord, they\u2019re doing their best with the \u201cABC\u2019s\u201d and math (yep, Kindergarteners are supposed to read and do math before first grade now).  Sure, those teachers have to deal with sexual \u201cidentity\u201d \u2013 which kids go to the \u201clittle girls\u201d room, and which go to the \u201clittle boys\u201d.  But they certainly aren\u2019t in the business of discussing the nuances of gay, straight, trans and queer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The \u201cright\u201d is using a \u201csex\u201d term we learned on Law and Order SVU.   <\/em>Teachers supposedly are \u201cgrooming\u201d kids in the classroom to be LGBTQ.  Reality from the classroom \u2013 that doesn\u2019t happen.  Teachers are far too busy documenting, teaching standards, testing-testing-testing, and making sure kids are \u201cOK\u201d to \u201cgroom\u201d anything.  And if they did, it doesn\u2019t take a  new law against it.  The entire world of education would fall on them. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

What \u201csex stuff\u201d might regular teachers discuss?  An primary teaching friend had to explain to Johnny, in the simplest (and briefest) way possible, why his penis was stiff.  Sex was NOT the answer, just a brief \u201cthis is a normal boy\u2019s body\u201d kind of thing.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Divorce and Gay Marriage<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

When I was in first grade in 1962, we found out about something called a \u201cdivorce\u201d.  Divorces were rare in those days, and when a kid in class had parents that were getting divorced, it posed a \u201cthreat\u201d to all of us.  I don\u2019t remember Miss Fox going into details, but she did find a way to make the child whose parents were divorcing, and the rest of us, understand that it wasn\u2019t the child\u2019s fault.  That kid found acceptance in class, at a time when he needed it most.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, almost half the kids in class are from divorced families.  Good or bad, it\u2019s a common part of our culture, one that kids share.  Today\u2019s equivalent to 1962\u2019s divorce, is parents of the same sex.  But if the Miss Fox of 2022 tries to find a way to make those kids feel \u201cOK\u201d, then is she violating the \u201cDon\u2019t Say Gay\u201d law in Florida, or the one proposed now in Ohio?  To the best I can tell, the answer to that question is, Yes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kids are smart, especially when it comes to the adults who impact their lives.  They know when the teacher isn\u2019t talking about something, when they are leaving silence where explanations usually occur.  And kids make the connection \u2013 if Miss Fox won\u2019t talk about it, then it must be a bad thing.  A message is sent, and received.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Trans Hype<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

And then there\u2019s this hyped-up issue of transgendered women competing in high school sports.  Utah\u2019s Governor Spencer Cox vetoed a proposed participation ban in his state (though his veto was ultimately overridden).  He pointed out, that out of the over 85,000 kids competing in Utah high school sports, four were transgendered women.  A law, written, debated, hyped, vetoed and overridden:  for four kids.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The reality \u2013 transgendered kids are trying to find a social place in the world, and athletics can help.  Out of the entire nation, with millions of kids participating in athletics, critics can point out about four cases where transgendered women are \u201csucceeding\u201d against biological women.  But Fox News <\/em>gives near-daily updates on their success, ginning up the base, and targeting one of the most vulnerable groups in our society:  transgendered kids. Look, studies indicate that 80% of transgendered folks have considered suicide and 40% have attempted it, mostly as youth (National Institute of Health<\/a>).  I\u2019m sure that a law that specifically impacts the four kids in Utah won\u2019t help that statistic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why Sports<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

I was a coach for forty years \u2013 cross country, wrestling and track, high school and middle school, girls and boys.  I am proud of the dozens of kids who left our programs and went on to compete at the collegiate level, and the very few who made a national impact on their sports.  But for the vast majority of those thousands of kids on \u201cmy\u201d teams over the years, it wasn\u2019t about medals and scholarships.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

It was about being a part of a team, a family.  For some of those kids, it was the \u201cbest\u201d family they had.  And it was about accepting the physical challenges of practice and competition, and finding ways to improve.  Those kids learned how to do more than they thought possible, and found the relationship between hard work and improvement. And they learned the joy of sharing a common struggle, effort and goal with their teammates.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

LGBTQ kids often need that \u201cfamily\u201d more than anyone else.  The LGBTQ kids I worked with certainly did.  Politicians standing on a soap-box and drawing a red-line on their participation only hurts them more, and sends a clear message to every other kid.  Rejection is real \u2013 and that\u2019s what the \u201cright\u201d is doing for political gain.  The hurt and loss that causes will be real too.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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