{"id":3723,"date":"2020-12-17T17:21:04","date_gmt":"2020-12-17T22:21:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/dahlman.online\/?p=3723"},"modified":"2020-12-17T17:21:14","modified_gmt":"2020-12-17T22:21:14","slug":"my-eulogy-to-dad","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dahlman.online\/index.php\/2020\/12\/17\/my-eulogy-to-dad\/","title":{"rendered":"My Eulogy to Dad"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><em>My father, Don Dahlman, passed away in Cleveland, Ohio on July 22, 2016.  It was two days before his 98th birthday.  We buried him<\/em> <em>back home in Cincinnati a week later.  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It was two days before his 98th birthday. We buried him back home in Cincinnati a week later. Here&#8217;s what I said. Last Friday, after Dad passed away in his room at the Menorah Park, we were waiting for him to go &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/dahlman.online\/index.php\/2020\/12\/17\/my-eulogy-to-dad\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading<span class=\"screen-reader-text\"> &#8220;My Eulogy to Dad&#8221;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"nf_dc_page":"","om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3723","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v27.4 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/product\/yoast-seo-wordpress\/ -->\n<title>My Eulogy to Dad : Our America - Essays on Politics and American Life<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/dahlman.online\/index.php\/2020\/12\/17\/my-eulogy-to-dad\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"My Eulogy to Dad : Our America - Essays on Politics and American Life\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"My father, Don Dahlman, passed away in Cleveland, Ohio on July 22, 2016. 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